It is harder to have an amicable separation than a happy marriage

Sometimes when couples separate, one or both express the desire to separate ‘amicably’. That is much easier said than done. This website, written by a professor of family law and practising family lawyer, offers suggestions and resources for how to separate sensibly – even if it is not all that amicable. It covers issues such as:

It has many links to other websites, including relevant sections of the Family Law Act or other legislation.

Why is it hard to separate amicably? When people separate, there can be a whirlpool of different emotions and reactions:

  • anger
  • blame
  • depression
  • self-justification
  • feelings of betrayal
  • feelings of failure
  • shame
  • embarrassment
  • fear for the future
  • a desire to see the other one suffer.

Separation often brings out the worst in us. However, life must go on. Where there are children, it will be by far the best for them if the parents can manage to separate without going to war with each other.

Please note that the views or opinions expressed in this website are general in nature and do not constitute legal or other professional advice. You may benefit from professional help to deal with individual issues.